UNITED STATES
National Catholic Reporter
Gerald Kleba | Jul. 8, 2013
VIEWPOINT
I was wearing walking shorts and a sports shirt, so when the hospice nurse arrived at the house, I had to introduce myself: “I’m Gerry Kleba, the family priest.” I’m not much into clericalism, so I don’t use the title “Father.” Within minutes, the mother of the family slipped away peacefully, as her children and I prayed, cried, talked, even laughed. I’d known the family for 40 years. The older children — in their teens then — had typed the parish bulletin on stencils, mimeographed and folded them on Saturday mornings at the rectory.
I had barely left the house, started my Prius and driven to the corner when I started to feel not only very sad, but very, very angry.
I turned off the radio to examine my emotions as I drove through the old neighborhood that had been my parish for 10 years. Everything we had talked about this afternoon, happily recalling my private Saturdays with these teens, could never happen today. The clergy abuse, the scandal of the cover-ups, and the subsequent “Protecting God’s Children” program, which decrees that a priest can never be alone with young people, had made that impossible. No young priest today has a chance for the quality intimacy that makes celibacy worthwhile and compelling, because his life will have to be spent at arm’s length from the very youngsters who are the most in need. The implication is: “Child, you’re not safe with me. You can’t trust me.”
When trust is lost, no one knows how to restore it. And no institution has betrayed trust so blatantly as the Catholic church, where the lies and cover-ups are traceable to the highest echelons of the hierarchy, including the Vatican. Now that we have seen American cardinals among those assembled in Rome for the election of a pope, I am angrier than ever. Some of these men are directly responsible for the crisis that has resulted in keeping me and other priests from having warm, healthy relationships with young people.
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