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The Heart of a Father

By Bishop Nicholas DiMarzio
The Tablet (Diocese of Brooklyn)
June 13, 2009

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My dear brothers and sisters in Christ,

As this will be my last letter to you for awhile, let me reflect upon Father’s Day that is coming. All true paternity must reflect God’s fatherhood for us. Father’s Day gives us an opportunity to reflect upon our own fathers or our own fatherhood, but most of all upon God’s eternal Fatherhood for all of us.

First, I reflect upon my own father for whom I have all good and positive memories of his kindness, with a very direct approach to rearing myself, my brother and my sister. He was a hard worker who for many years worked two jobs in order to make sure that his children would receive the best education possible. Perhaps I have inherited his work ethic in my approach to my Episcopal ministry. Perhaps, too, one of the things that is most memorable was his understanding of the need for independent thinking and action for his children. Although he gave great example, he never forced our adherence to the rules of the family, but it was expected that we fulfill them. For example, we knew at an early age when the street lights went on we were expected to be home, as well as many other interesting and practical rules. Unfortunately, my father died at the young age of 67 and was not able to see me become a Bishop. But he certainly enjoyed the years in which he saw my priesthood and the fatherhood that I was able to share with many more than he was able to share.

As I reflect upon the paternity which is part and parcel to the priesthood, we have a great responsibility to mirror God’s fatherhood for all with whom we come in contact. It is never easy to be a perfect father. As we know in our world today so many people fail in spite of the best intentions to be the best of fathers to their children. This, unfortunately, has been true with our priests, especially those who have betrayed their fatherhood by the sexual abuse of minor children. As you realize, the news is full of this issue recently. This article is written before the pending vote in the State Assembly on the Markey bill as amended, which now becomes fairer in including not only non-profit, but also public institutions. However, it still lacks the legal and appropriate logic necessary to truly bring about the healing of those who are victims of sexual abuse.

One of the most difficult things that I do as a Bishop is to meet with the victims of sexual abuse, as I have said several times. It is always an effort to reestablish the image of priest as father with those who have been betrayed by those who have so sacred a trust. Unfortunately, the media portrays the Church as uncaring and somehow wanting to re-victimize those who have suffered so much. This is so far from the truth and contradicts the facts. The portrayal of what has happened in the past is certainly misguided and untrue. All we can do is try to set the record straight and make sure that we protect our children in the future from anyone who would harm them and be sure that the paternity essential to the priesthood always reflects God’s love for His people.

Several years ago, close friends of mine had two of their children sexually abused at a day care center. It was truly a traumatic experience for them and one that I, myself, suffered. There was little recourse on the private day care center, there was really no one to sue, but only the self incrimination of the parents who felt somehow they had let their children down by not protecting them. This, unfortunately, is the feeling that many people have, and yet we cannot avoid the dangers in our world today. We must protect against them. We cannot blame ourselves for things beyond our control. Retribution never brings about justice, nor will the crippling of the Church’s ability to carry out its mission serve any purpose.

During the past several weeks, you have seen my actions portrayed in the most negative of fashions. It is almost impossible to defend ourselves in a public forum when the media has such power and distribution. It almost is immune to any legal suits for the inaccuracies and sometimes downright lies. Hopefully, trust in your Church authorities must be rekindled. I refer you again to the complete explanation of the sexual abuse crisis available on our diocesan website (www.dioceseofbrooklyn.org). By the time you see this article, the bill will have already passed or have been defeated in the Assembly. If it is passed, there will be a Senate fight. We cannot help but urge Catholics to become aware of the situation and speak with their legislators so that true justice can be obtained for both the Church and the victims.

On a more personal note, on June 16, which happens to be my 65th birthday, I will enter the hospital for a quadruple bypass surgery. It was fortunate that my doctor detected some irregularity in the heart, which most probably is genetic. My own brother, who is 16 months younger than myself, six months ago underwent angioplasty for a stent in the very same place where one of my blockages exists. I can only ask your prayers for a successful operation and recovery. This is why I began my letter that I would not be writing for several weeks until I can regain strength to take up a full workload again.

It has been my joy to apply myself in all ways, especially in visiting parishes which is one of my greatest joys. With God’s help and your prayers, I will regain my strength to continue the vigorous pastoral activity so necessary in our Diocese here in Brooklyn and Queens. I will be putting out into the deep of medical expertise and science, which today can prolong our lives and give us new health. Please pray for me during this time.

Remando Mar Adentro
La Vida Religiosa

By El Obispo Nicholas DiMarzio

Mis hermanas y hermanos en Cristo,

Una de las grandes bendiciones de la Diócesis de Brooklyn es el tener a tantos religiosos y religiosas que le sirven. El número de religiosas es de 950 y el de los religiosos, hermanos y sacerdotes, aproximadamente de 302.

La vida religiosa ha sido para Iglesia a través de los siglos, un verdadero testimonio con respecto a los consejos evangélicos de pobreza, castidad y obediencia. Una miríada de congregaciones y comunidades hacen la familia de la vida religiosa. Cada una de ellas tiene su propio carisma, al ser llamadas a una labor particular o a un apostolado al cual se dedican. En el pasado, muchas religiosas han laborado exclusivamente en las escuelas y el cuidado médico, pero desde el Concilio Vaticano, las hemos visto trabajando en diferentes capacidades y lugares de la vida pastoral.

Uno de los problemas a los que nos enfrentamos hoy en la Iglesia es la de sus beneficios de retiro no consolidados que afectan a nuestros religiosos y religiosas. En el pasado, simplemente trabajaban por un estipendio y muy pocas comunidades tenían la facilidad de ahorrar para sus necesidades cuando llegase el momento de retirarse. El hecho es, de que los que trabajaban sostenían a aquellos que ya estaban retirados. Pero al mismo tiempo que las vocaciones a la vida religiosas disminuían, especialmente entre las religiosas, el número de aquellas que ganaban un estipendio no ha sido suficiente para mantener a aquellas que ya están retiradas. Las Diócesis de Brooklyn y de Rockville Centre han estado a la vanguardia de otras diócesis, habiendo establecido, aproximadamente 22 años atrás, una Colecta para nuestros religiosos y religiosas retirados. Nuestra colecta ha tomado lugar el domingo, pero podemos donar en cualquier momento, porque se hace con el propósito de ayudar a las comunidades religiosas que han trabajado duro y fuerte en nuestra diócesis, proveyéndolas justamente, en sus necesidades para cuando les llegue el retiro. Cada año, ha sido una de las mejores colectas que hemos tenido. Ya que muchos recuerdan los sacrificios que han hecho los consagrados a la vida religiosa en educarlos, por eso, apelamos a su generosidad para que de alguna forma podamos reciprocar a aquellos que han hecho tanto bien por nosotros.

Y ya que hablamos de las religiosas me da la oportunidad de comentar acerca del Concilio de Religiosas que comenzó años atrás con la ayuda de la hermana Maryann Seton Lopiccolo, nuestra Delegada episcopal para religiosas. El Concilio ha estado trabajando por más de tres años, enfrentándose a los problemas y oportunidades de las religiosas en nuestra diócesis. En los pasados años, hemos venido tratando de ayudar a sus miembros al planeamiento de las necesidades escolares, especialmente con aquellos que han tenido experiencia en la administración de escuelas y que estén dispuestos a enseñar a nuevos directores y administradores. Otro proyecto es la ayuda a las religiosas internacionales que llegan a nuestra diócesis a aclimatarse a la nueva cultura y a nuevas maneras de trabajar para la Iglesia. Varios años atrás hemos iniciado la Fiesta de la Presentación al comienzo de febrero, con un evento catedralicio donde las religiosas se reúnen a orar por la presencia de las religiosas en la Iglesia, especialmente para que haya vocaciones entre ellas.

Un nuevo proyecto ha comenzado recientemente en la Fiesta de la Presentación de Nuestra Señora el 21 de noviembre, como el día de Pro Orantibus, es decir el Día de oración para las religiosas de clausura. Nuestra diócesis está bendecida en tener cinco comunidades de religiosas de clausura: las Monjas de la Visitación, las Misioneras de la Caridad, las Hermanas adoradoras del la Preciosísima Sangre, las Monjas carmelitas, y las Sirvientas del Señor y la Virgen de Matera. Estas comunidades enclaustradas se dedican a la vida contemplativa y a la oración por el mundo y por la Iglesia. ¡Cuán bendecidos somos de tener cinco comunidades en la diócesis que oran por nosotros! Esta nueva celebración del Día de oración para la vida de clausura tomará forma mientras nos preparamos para el Concilio de religiosas.

El Concilio de religiosas provee la oportunidad para las religiosas de discutir entre ellas mismas las necesidades de la diócesis y me proveen como su obispo, cuando me reúno con ellas varias veces al año, la oportunidad de oír directamente cuales son esas necesidades y planear cuando emergen asuntos nuevos como llevarlos a cabo.

Con su dedicación total, la vida religiosa es claramente testigo del Reino de Dios. A pesar de que ha cambiado a través de los años, el hecho es que sus necesidades no han cambiado. Cada cual que entra en la vida religiosa ciertamente rema mar adentro reconociendo que necesita llevar una vida de compromiso total de pobreza, castidad y obediencia. La colecta que se hace para la vida religiosa nos da la oportunidad de mostrar nuestra gratitud y también para rezar por ellos que nos han servido en el pasado y han marcado el camino delante de nosotros con signos de fe, y también aquellos que continúan trabajando, a que tengan un lugar en el futuro.

 
 

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