Therapist Advises Open Communication on Tough Subjects

By Diana Crawford
WAFF
February 7, 2014

http://www.waff.com/story/24657189/therapist-gives-advice-on-talking-to-children-after-shoals-pastor-accusations

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The entire Highland Park Baptist Church Congregation is struggling to cope with the news about Children's Pastor Jeffrey Eddie who was charged with multiple counts of sodomy and sex abuse involving children.

Dr. Drew Jamieson, a licensed marriage and family therapist, said if you attend Highland Park Baptist Church it's vital you find out if your child is a victim of the alleged sexual abuse.

Many kids are afraid or embarrassed to come forward with that information. They think they have done something wrong and fear they will get in trouble.

Dr. Jamieson said parents first need to sit down with their children and ask them questions. Find out what they have heard about the situation, how it makes them feel, and if there was ever a time that something comfortable or inappropriate happened.

He also added that parents need to look for signs of child abuse, such as changes in behavior and appetites.

If a child tells you they were a victim of the abuse or you suspect they may have been, you need to call police immediately.

"For these children that have been directly affected, just helping these kids sort out what's going on emotionally is what is most important," Dr. Jamieson added. "I would say in most, if not every case, seeking professional help is going to be the most important thing to do."

Dr. Jamieson said if your child was not directly affected by the abuse, but you attend Highland Park Baptist Church, it's important you also talk about what happened with them. Kids are certain to be confused and have questions so finding out how they feel will help.

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