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	The Healing Power of Forgiveness By Sandi Dolbee San Diego Union-Tribune August 16, 2008 http://www.signonsandiego.com/uniontrib/20080816/news_1c16forgivem.html Science measures physical as well as mental benefits Paul Livingston doesn't look like a victim. At 6-foot-7 and 330 pounds, he is taller than Michael Jordan and big enough to play offensive tackle for the San Diego Chargers. But 36 years ago, when he was only 6 years old, he became prey for a pedophile custodian at a Catholic school in Orange County. Last summer, his lawsuit was one of more than 500 claims in a record $660 million settlement with the Roman Catholic Archdiocese of Los Angeles. Then, in May, he took another step toward healing: During a weeklong program at a private institute near Napa, Livingston forgave his now-dead abuser. “When I first heard 'forgiveness,' I could not imagine forgiving someone for doing such heinous acts to children. I thought it would be letting him off the hook,” says Livingston, who lives in San Diego. “Boy, have I been taught a lesson in life. Forgiveness is not about letting them off the hook. It's about continuing on with our journey. It frees up our soul, in a way. You let go of the anger.” He says he can feel the difference. His acid reflux is gone. He's stopped yelling at his daughter. Livingston has discovered what science has been saying for years: Forgiveness is good for you. Literally. A new science is exploding. It's not about measuring the big bang or excavating the ice on Mars. This science is more homeward bound, dealing with a word that religions have exulted and people have largely eluded. Since its emergence in the 1990s, the new science of forgiveness has mushroomed into hundreds of studies by researchers testing aspects ranging from the physical and mental health effects on college students seething over being dumped by their dates to abuse victims reeling from betrayal and people rendered paralyzed in accidents. In journal after journal, year after year, the cumulative evidence is enough to even convince a team from “CSI.” Bag 'em and tag 'em: People who learn to forgive seem to have fewer cardiovascular problems and stress-related ailments, and generally feel happier than those still holding a grudge. Just last month, the journal of Mental Health, Religion and Culture reported that people who forgave had decreased odds of depression – women more so than men. Another study published this year found that men generally have a harder time forgiving than women. Perhaps it's ironic that the midwife for this birth was a theologian and ethicist. The late Lewis Smedes, of Fuller Theological Seminary in Pasadena, knew the God stuff. He knew the world's religions considered forgiveness a virtue. From Hinduism's Bhagavad Gita to the Koran of Islam to Christianity's Lord's Prayer, scriptures extol forgiveness as a heavenly attribute. But Smedes was convinced that forgiveness was good for the forgiver, as well. And he wanted researchers to put it to the test. Everett Worthington Jr., a psychology professor at Virginia Commonwealth University who became a pioneer in forgiveness research, remembers Smedes' message this way: “We can do this. We can study it scientifically.” Fueled by grants from the John Templeton Foundation in Pennsylvania, the Fetzer Institute in Michigan and even the National Institutes of Health, teams of psychologists and others launched a range of studies, from the effects of forgiveness on heart rate to back pain. Worthington was tapped to lead a forgiveness research campaign in the late 1990s. “We expected to get about 20 applications,” he remembers. “We got 134 proposals.” And there are few signs of the interest letting up. A call has been issued for hundreds of papers to be considered for a global summit on forgiveness. The first challenge for researchers was the word itself. Just what is forgiveness? “Forgiving does not mean excusing, forgetting or pretending that an offense never occurred,” says Julie Juola Exline, associate professor of psychology at Case Western Reserve University in Cleveland. “Forgiveness also does not imply that you trust the person who hurt you. Forgivers still seek le gal justice in some cases, and they may take steps to protect themselves from being hurt again.” Instead, forgiveness is a letting go of the “bitter, grudging, vengeful feelings.” It is a decidedly secular definition, far short of the radical forgiveness preached by Jesus, who told an offender to go and sin no more and offered forgiveness to his executioners even as he was dying. “I think Jesus was an exemplar of forgiveness,” says Ken Pargament, a clinical psychologist at Bowling Green State University in Ohio. “We're not Jesus. For other human beings, forgiveness is a process.” Part of that process is empathy, “putting yourself in the perspective of the person who hurt you rather than just demonizing them,” Pargament says. Empathy proved to be key for Worthington, the Virginia forgiveness researcher who had already made a name for himself in this field when something happened that would put his work to a horrible test. On New Year's Eve, 1995, Worthington's elderly mother was brutally murdered by an intruder. Worthington remembers being in a seething rage. But walking through her home, now a crime scene, Worthington noticed that all the mirrors were demolished. He began to feel a kind of compassion for whoever did this. “Empathy is not about approving of what they did,” he says. “It's about understanding why they did it.” When asked if science has proved that forgiveness is good for what ails us, Worthington's answer is particularly poignant. “As a scientist, as a person, I say, yeah, I think the evidence is pretty strong that it has more benefits than it has harm.” Molly LaRue's body was found next to her dead fiance. They were murdered by serial killer Paul David Crews in September 1990 while hiking on the Appalachian Trail. Sixteen years later, just before Christmas, Molly's father, Jim LaRue, was in a Pennsylvania courtroom reading a one-page letter of forgiveness to Crews when his death sentence was commuted to life in prison without parole. “Most people think you are forgiving the perpetrator and they're off scot-free and you get nothing,” says LaRue, who lives in a suburb near Cleveland. “It's just the opposite. When you forgive a person, you're deciding to be freed.” He has no doubt that forgiveness has been good for him. “I have the energy to focus on other things,” he says. Before, “there were always nagging, gnawing thoughts in the background. You pay a price for that.” Earlier this year, a Mayo Clinic journal reported that people who held grudges had increased blood pressure and heart rates, part of a mounting body of evidence, including a previous study of more than 2,000 twin pairs in Virginia that found that forgiveness related to less nicotine dependence and less drug abuse. Other research found that HIV-infected patients took better care of themselves if they successfully forgave themselves and others. So did recovering alcoholics. People suffering spinal-cord injuries tended to cope better with their health situation and their treatments if they had forgiven. Charlotte vanOyen Witvliet, an associate professor of psychology at Hope College in Holland, Mich., decided to see what physical effects people exhibited when they remembered the transgressions against them. She focused on heart rate, blood pressure, facial muscles and sweat levels. When people remembered the transgressions, the bio-markers showed elevated stress and tension. When she had them think about forgiveness, she says the results were significant. “It had this fascinating quelling effect,” she explains. Witvliet also made headlines with a study of forgiveness involving 213 Vietnam military veterans experiencing post traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). Her team found that vets who had trouble with forgiveness experienced more problems with PTSD. As for the immune system, the theory is that unforgiveness is a personal stressor, which means every time it is felt, it triggers a stress reaction. Cortisol, a hormone produced by the adrenal glands, rushes to the body's defense, contributing energy, suppressing inflammation and even regulating the deposition of fat in the body. Too much cortisol, however, can interfere with the immune system over time. “Our bodies aren't designed to operate that way,” is how Worthington puts it in an interview from Virginia. Researchers aren't ready to pronounce forgiveness as a cure. While forgiveness seems to contribute to a healthier existence, mentally and physically, the field of research is still too young to know exactly what part it plays in the human jigsaw. “I think we've got a long way to go,” says Witvliet, the Hope College researcher. This is particularly true about long-term research, which could better define the role of forgiveness and unforgiveness in cumulative health and disease. But those who have toiled in this field the longest – psychologists such as Worthington in Virginia and Robert Enright of the University of Wisconsin Madison – are bullish. In an e-mail from Northern Ireland, where he spent much of the summer working on a forgiveness curriculum for schoolchildren, Enright says he now is more impressed with the power of forgiveness to heal than when he began his research two decades ago. Worthington also is adamant. “It is not going to be refuted,” he says. “It's going to be refined.” Immaculee Ilibagiza survived the Rwandan genocide hidden in a pastor's bathroom for three months with seven other women. It was an excruciating ordeal, and she hated the men armed with machetes who hunted and murdered her family and friends. But as she recited Bible verses in the misery of that cramped, hunger-filled space, she began to listen to the words. Forgive trespassers. Don't take revenge. If she wanted everything in the Bible to be true, then she needed to do as the words instructed. Ilibagiza lives in New York now and has documented her story in the book, “Left to Tell.” When she returned to visit Rwanda, she met the imprisoned leader of the Hutu gang who killed her mother and a brother. As he cowered in front of her, emaciated and in rags, Ilibagiza felt pity. She told him she forgave him. Suddenly, she felt her own heart ease. “Forgiveness is really what you do for yourself,” she says.
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