I have been stalked once — due to a chat conversation. I was planning on meeting this guy for coffee sometime in the future. In the course of a chat I mentioned a place that I often visited and when I would go. I thought nothing of it. But then one day this total stranger tapped me on the shoulder and asked me if I was K, my on line nick [sic] — I freaked! He came to watch me and check me out!

I never thought I would feel this way — and I wasn't doing anything untoward. He didn't even know I was gay — but I knew that he was. And he knew I was a priest ... even though he didn't know my real name. But the idea that someone had come to look at me while I was unaware ... very strange.

We strike a ballance [sic] on this list — we confided feelings and secrets that we couldn't utter anywhere else — and feel liberated in doing so, while at the same time — keeping a level of distance or anonimity [sic] for security. It's a bit strange and scarry [sic] at times — but what options do we have?